Having started another job, I had a full week of finishing one and throwing myself into the next one and what flies out the door and when you are under the pump; is routine.
As an Aquarian, the idea of routine is a dark nightmare that sucks your soul of freedom but as I have gotten older, there has become a certain satisfaction in having a few routines. I realise that it brings with it, a sense of safety and comfort.
Routine is good for us who really get into a panic when all does do not go to plan - that's life honey - but in having some part of your life follow an iota of a routine (even if its just what you do getting up in the morning) can be useful in employing some calm.
For me the hot water flush for my liver and kidneys, zushing my barista style soy latte, opening the curtains with the affirmation 'good morning, morning!', observing the weather and then returning to bed with said latte to review emails or jot down creative bits that stick in my mind; is a little routine just helps get the day on track.
I realise routine is a dirty word to many and impossible for some due to partners and family demands however if there is one hour of your day you can apply some routine to, try it out. I look forward to my morning barista stint. Coffee highs are one thing but the essence of familiarity and moment of joy a bit of routine brings to the daily storm is priceless.
What's your favourite routine?
Due to Venusian rising (thank you Libra) as well as Venus in Pisces, I'm quite heavily afflicted with the fall in love easily gene. Or, should I say I go 'full like' full tilt (that my friends is my Aries moon talking). I applaud this on one level in that I'm not afraid to take risks with matters of the heart, but it does get a bruising from time to time it could avoid.
I am no wallflower in social situations so I am sure it's one of my main attractants in that I'm easy to talk to. That said, it also seems to be one of the many problems I encounter in that the opposite boy party would happily spill his guts in his life story, and then disappear without a trace having not offered one reason as to the non-continuance of what appears to have been a pretty 'funny thing'. And this is several times in the past year (and I'm probably in that state right this minute with another party!)
I'm not on the trail of a diamond ring or to have my eggs fertilised but it does remain one of those boy/girl mysteries. Why did he just not say what was on his mind? If you can give a full life history including the emotional bits what then the issue of taking an honest out? Who is going to die? Not me that's for sure! I guess even John Gray (Mens are from Mars...) can't untangle that. But it's a mystery like aliens/Loch Ness I shall no doubt keep up with.
Fellows, what gives? Matthew Hussey?! Someone?!
So I awoke with this grand idea, I have been saving myself a great deal of angst because I don't drive. Even though I am in my 40's and learnt to drive in my teens, I never swapped out my learners plastic for the full license. The reasons for not doing so are long (and kind of silly) but I've come to realize it's a great thing on many levels notably STRESS.
Us A&D'ers are of course compelled to reduce stress in our life because yes, it leads right into the jaws of anxiety. Quite frankly being a passenger in my mother's car is enough to give anyone anxiety given the commentary. Still, and you must agree; that every morning when you get to work someone is complaining about the amount of traffic, the traffic conditions (thank you oh so responsible Mr Weather!) how someone cut them off, how they couldn't find a park, the list goes on. Simple. Don't drive!
When I was self-employed I would often (to justify my taxi use to the accountant) weigh up the cost of purchasing (or leasing) a vehicle, insuring it, housing it, maintaining and of course the other little perks like fuel and then potential accidents. I calculated that I could take 2-3 taxis a week and still be ahead of the game. A calculation I use often now when people challenge me on my absence from the steering wheel. On a fiscal level, it makes sense. On the flip side, commuting has its costs also. You don't always have an easy route to your destination, your fellow passengers can be gross (don't let me go there) but the benefits are you can listen to music, read a book and or stare out the window (the latter I highly recommend for the creative brains out there) and arrive at your destination pretty unfazed. For the other ardent greenies out there, the environment cost is negligible and I for one am glad my footprint is low on the carbon emissions scale.
Now let's get down to why driving isn't so great for those of us who are particularly prone to stress. No matter how long your commute, you are operating in a mindset of stress because you guessed it driving is dangerous! You need to be on alert constantly on so many levels let alone engaging your motor skills (no pun intended) to operate your vehicle, you are also on the look out for potential hazards, employing your inner compass for known routes or deciphering your GPS' instructions. That's three 'states' in one action! Hell, I could throw in a bit of jargon about the parts of your brain that are in operation but in layman's terms, that's a shit load of brain power going on!
Naturally, some of us cannot avoid not driving. We need to get to a remote workplace, ferry our children to school or take a trip that we can only afford by car. What to do here? I found this fun link (just click on the images below the image of the driver) that could be useful for you.
As for me, Daytona at the arcade is going to have to suffice for now. That, or until the bank balance tips in the favour of the self-driving Tesla which I long for because weirdly enough for a non-driver I do harbour a big love for cars!
Have you got a tip for stress-less commuting? I'd love to hear it :)
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