I work as a temp (not sure if I mentioned that before, but more stories will spring from this!) so I am consistently thrust into new environments that require one to form new associations. For many people, that's like putting them on stage and saying you must now entertain a thousand people. Kill me now I hear you say, and I do understand that for many of us a new environment can deliver a truckload of anxiety. This is one area I am fortunate, as I have moved towns and cities since I could talk and while in my younger years it wasn't so great (13 schools if you will), it has stood me in good stead in the adaptability department.
Late last year I had begun a new assignment with an architecture firm and as luck would have it; it turned out the new office manager and I had worked in the same studios in London in our 'glory' days. A new bond formed (hurrah!) and not only did we share a penchant for adventure, we were both finding it a challenge as our respective personalities were polar opposites to our new co-workers. New association solidified!
Anyway, it got me to thinking about how in past years, in circulating workplaces; how very few people I bonded with in a more long term focus. I know many people have the same friend circles their whole lives and I definitely have a 'soul group' of friends but it does become necessary down the track - say if your partner has a social job or you join a mothers group - that one is forced into making an alliance or two. These can be fraught of course as some early friendships don't stand the test of time but it is a wonderful exercise in your world to step beyond the known and kind of 'let it all out' with a new person - even if over champers at a Xmas party when you should be gasping over the structure of a bazillion dollar island home your firm's built you are canape-ing at!
However, I feel when you go out there with bravery and a smidge of trust in the Universe; you will do find people who share your sensibilities or afflictions. I do of course have those 'burrow' moments of being socially reticent but I do think if you can push the boat out now and then, a wonderful tribe might be waiting on that island to embrace the awesomeness of you. And who doesn't want to feel awesome?!
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