Many of you will have heard this saying (inset) and it really does hold true. Sometimes you do have to break up with friends and it's hard. We've all been there and I've been 'dumped' too. I guess the trick is to let go graciously as if it was a love relationship which it is really. You have to move on, not necessarily filling that person's space; but thanking them (mentally) for the good times but also for the gift of the relationship that helped you grow as a person and hopefully a better friend.
My friendships have always been the most important thing in the world to me (sometimes to my detriment!) and there's nothing like a (mental) illness to truly test those around you and see who goes into (and stays) bat for you.
I have been blessed that many friends (some reaching the third-decade mark!) did just that and I was surprised too at some of the newer friends (a decade or less) that really showed up. There are those that too, that have suffered.
When I returned home to live in my families town, I reacquainted with two old friends who had both also returned to the family bosom due in part to dysfunctional relationships and the resulting A&D. We laughed about our teenage exploits and who was now taking the most medication. It was refreshing to have a ready made sounding board when you are feeling defeat and can reach out to those also suffering similarly. That said, I did come across a few that hadn't really changed in the resulting years and fortunately, they weeded themselves out of my life of their own volition.
In any circumstances, friendships teach us so much about ourselves and strengthen the gratitude that someone else gives that much of a f$%k about you even if you can't always return the favour.
To all the friends, I've loved before, THANK YOU!!!
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NB. If you're an a!%hole you can 'hop off' though!
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